Happy colors

IMG_3130There are days when you want happy colors, but not necessarily BOLD colors. Today was one of those.  It was rainy this morning and generally not as warm as usual, but I felt the need for colors that would make me smile.  Purple invariably makes me style.

This is an older top you’ve seen before from Kiyonna, with a black tank (YummieTummie, which is shapewear to pull in my middle) and black skinny trousers (coldwater creek).  The explosion of colors, big floral print and soft fabric allow this top to hide a multitude of sins, while the basic colors meant that I could throw a black cardigan over it at work when I got chilly.

The bag is an older design from Melie Bianco, purchased off ebay, and obviously not closed in the picture.  You can see it better below.  The shoes are black patent slides from Dansko that I picked up on sale.

Photo on 9-10-13 at 10.16 AMJewelry is a bit of a mish-mash.  The multi-layer necklace came from the little boutique across the street that doesn’t do online sales, while the bracelet is from LittleBlackBag.

I’ve also been experimenting lately with Carmindy’s “5 minute face”, minus the layer of foundation.  It’s actually quite quick and easy, although I haven’t decided yet whether it is actually doing me any good or not.

 

PHILOSOPHICAL MUSINGS (You’ve been warned):

I struggle with the idea of makeup.   My husband would say that I spent too much time in academia (and a liberal school of education to boot) but there is an extent to which makeup rankles my feminist side.  Much like stilettos, makeup implies that a woman in her natural state is not sufficiently attractive and that we must change ourselves to conform to external definitions of beauty.  Moreover, it suggests that everything we do, including our professional life, is judged based upon the standards of beauty set to ensure that we find a mate.

At the same time, the vast majority of women don’t think about it that way; they think of makeup either as “fun” or as “making them feel better about themselves”.  They fail to recognize where those standards come from or how they imply that we aren’t good enough as is.  And since most women don’t think about the implications, the result is that a woman who chooses NOT to wear makeup or conform to those expectations is outcast by WOMEN as well.  In effect, we enforce compliance in all these extra steps on other women.  Most men don’t actually care (although they generally appreciate the effect).

For years I have colored my hair, and for the last decade that has been as much about covering grey as about changing my look.  In general, I cover grey because I am conscious of the fact that a small amount of grey on a women tends to look sloppy and as though she doesn’t care for her appearance.  (On a man, we perceive grey as wisdom and a positive addition to their appearance.) I have mostly complied with that particular pressure because, well, it’s relatively easy.  An hour every 3-4 weeks and I don’t have to think about it.

But makeup has to be done every day.  Actually MORE than once per day if you live somewhere like AZ, where much of it will melt off when I head out to lunch.  At a minimum of, say 45 minutes per week, it is more consistently time consuming than coloring my hair or painting my nails.

For now, I am experimenting.  No foundation (mostly because I hate the way it feels on my skin).  Concealer, eyeliner/mascara (top lid only), a bit of highlighter, a touch of blush and some lip color.  (I’m still undecided on the blush; I have a lot of pink in my cheeks to start with, and since I’m not removing it with foundation, I don’t know for sure that I need to put it back.)

What do you think?  Do you wear makeup?  How much?  Why?

 

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3 comments

  1. s says:

    I don’t wear makeup (except on special occasions) and I don’t color my hair. On one hand, both of these are deliberate feminist choices. On the other hand, I wonder how well my feminist convictions would stand up if I actually looked like your average 45 year old woman – I’m still routinely taken for someone 10-15 years younger than I actually am (minimal grey hair, almost no wrinkles, decent complexion), and occasionally I even get carded. On the third hand, I’m damn lazy and hate the way foundation feels on my face so maybe I wouldn’t give a damn. I’m actually looking forward to being that older lady with the long flowing silver hair.

    -s

    • Rebecca says:

      I have to admit that is also part of it – you see my pictures; I very rarely am accused of being out of my 30s, and 47 is usually beyond what anyone thinks is even possible.

      I think when I start to have MORE grey and it is evenly through my hair I might start letting it go. There is a terrific blogger (http://www.highlandfashionista.com) who has beautiful salt-and-pepper hair. If mine looked more like that when it grew out, I would be more tempted.

  2. Good questions. I wear make up probably twice a week, even though I have a huge stash of it. I think I like the IDEA of make up more than I like make up. I don’t feel naked without it, nor feel I look horrific without, but on a day when I do wear it, it has quite the effect on me. I consider the act of applying make up like meditating in front of a mirror – it soothes me. If I’m having a bad day putting some make up on does cheer me up. Look good, feel good I guess. I’m perfectly fine without make up, but feel a little more ‘me’ with it.

    I love the top, by the way!