Rockin’ the 60s

This dress just seems so Mod to me – I cannot WAIT for the temperatures to drop enough to wear it with a pair of black boots….

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(Apologies for the wet hair – I’m going to Yoga after work, so I won’t have another chance to get in front of the mirror and take a picture.)

Dress is from BB Dakota – Gwynnie Bee carries it, but I actually bought it from Modcloth before I ever saw that. Modcloth is out of the plus sizes, however. But if you haven’t seen the wonderful things they are doing for plus sized girls lately, clicking on this link will get you $15 off your purchase.  They are carrying a hundreds of plus sized items, up to a 4X (26/28), and their style has broadened quite a bit as well.

I wore it with a pair of relatively old Born platform heels (not the same but these would look amazing as well) and carried my Kate Spade Deborah Dot Little Nadine bag mostly because I ran out of time to change bags, and it still goes :)

Photo on 7-28-14 at 1.15 PMFor jewelry I wore a ring from Wantable and a cuff that I got in a swap and has turned in to my single favorite piece of jewelry.  Wantable is a subscription box (well, actually 3 boxes) that you can subscribe to.  For a set price per month you give them sizes and preferences and they send you a selection of items. Right now I subscribe to the Accessories box, which is where the ring came from, and the Intimates box, which is where my undies today came from.  (No, I’m not posting a picture.)

2014-07-28 13.27.12I have no idea where the bracelet came from – it’s a silver plate cuff with a hinged back, and I am going to cry like a baby when the plating finally wears off.  Here’s hoping it lasts for a long time.  (Wonder if I could take it to a jeweler and get it re-plated when that happens…)

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Impatiently waiting for fall

BtbpbRdIUAAmTIvIt was 116 degrees in AZ this week.  That makes it FAR too hot to ride my bike to work (or rather to safely get home after work – the morning’s are OK). Walking the dog is something that happens around 10pm, if it happens at all. It’s also monsoon season, which means that many nights we get rain and a dust storm/haboob (see above).  All this has me looking longly forward to fall; cooler weather (by our standards at least), but more importantly fall colors.

One of the things I’m fascinated by is color analysis; which colors make us look better, which don’t.  I’ve worn colors that didn’t work for me in the past (mustard, orange) and others that were amazing (oxblood, navy).  This past spring I got my colors done officially and confirmed what I kind of already knew:  I’m a Dark or Deep Winter.  (Think also Ellen Page, Sandra Bullock, Anne Hatheway – Brunette, Dark Eyes, Pale Skin)

Summer isn’t a bad shopping season for dark winter because all our colors don’t have to be dark.  In fact, we can wear a LOT of the really strong colors you see in the summer – cobalt blue, fuchsia, primary red, etc., as well as looking terrific in high-contrast color blocking.  But dark winter coloring is winter leaning toward autumn, which means that a lot of the really rich, deep, jewel tones that come out in the fall are our BEST colors.

So I’ve started shopping.  Here’s what I’ve ordered this recently:

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(Items 1/2: Zulily, 3-5: Old Navy, 6/7: ASOS, 8-10: Nordstrom)

It looks like a lot, but I would be amazed if I kept all of it.  For example, the Old Navy items involved taking a bit chance for me – their fit varies wildly. Still, if you look at the colors, they are ALL fall shades.  Deep, rich, and strong.

Notice also that most of these items fit the climate of AZ – even though the colors are dark, the sleeves are generally short and the fabrics are light.  (The one exception is the cardigan, but it matches too perfectly with the colors in the print top next to it; I couldn’t leave it behind.)  I can start wearing these items any time now.

It’s a start.  Most lines haven’t released their fall collections yet, so I expect to find many more items over the next few months.  I’ll post what I find!

More Polka Dots from Gwynnie Bee

Gwynnie Bee has you create a “closet” with lots of items in it and then sends what is available.  As it happened, I received 2 polka dot dresses in a row and decided to wear them back to back and compare.  You saw the previous one, so here is the latest.

QGdzJDxb1SY0xBAL.jpgThis dress is from Elementz and is a much simpler style.  For work (where it is a bit chilly in the office), I wore it with a short red cardigan from Modcloth. (Yes, I’m still working on the iphone photography – I can only improve, right?)  I finished the outfit with the Rieker sandals I wore the last time, although as I am wearing them the leather across the front of the foot is stretching and they are becoming somewhat less comfortable.  I carried my beloved Kate Spade Deborah Dot Little Nadine bag (which is out of stock everywhere) and wore a one-of-a-kind necklace made by my artist friend.

This outfit is actually a little challenging for me – the sweater stops right at the little pooge of my stomach, making me VERY aware of it.  And my chest is big enough that I’m always trying to make sure the buttons on the cardi aren’t pulling. But I still think the outfit looks terrific.

(Tangent:  I got fitted for an underwire bra, something that I have avoided for years and am SLOWLY working on wearing for more than an hour at a time.  I am wearing it here.  It’s a Prima Donna Deuville in a size 40H, which my husband says stands for 40 Holy COW!’s)

36zi4NoxaPp5N9m7.jpgHere’s a shot of the dress without the cardi.  I decided to BUY this dress for three reasons: First, I like the lack of a set in waist band. While this one would also be well served with some shapewear, I feel better even though it’s not there.  Second, I like the larger, more symmetrical polka dots on this dress.  Third, I think the length is better – a little younger, more universally flattering and likely to remain in style.

(I apologize for the messy desk in the background – we have 1 full length mirror in our house, and it’s in my office on the closet door.  At least the dogs aren’t milling around – it took a while to get a shot that didn’t have at least 1 random pet in it.)

For comparison, here are the two dresses side by side:

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Did I make the right decision on which one to keep?



Polka Dots and Gwynnie Bee

2014-07-22 18.14.24Way back when, I tried Gwynnie Bee for a while.  And then cancelled it.  It wasn’t working for me then, mostly because I wasn’t wearing dresses all that much and their non-dress inventory wasn’t from the better brands.

The dress thing has changed, and I gotta tell you; if you wear dresses and live in the U.S.,  you cannot find a better way to spend your money than Gwynnie Bee.  If you haven’t heard of it, here’s the deal:  You pay a monthly fee and basically borrow garments for as few or as many days as you like.  The fee defines how many you can have out at the time.  When you are done with something, you send it back; they wash/dry clean it and make it available for the next person.  If you love it, you have the option to buy it at a reduced price (since technically it’s used).

Gwynnie Bee has been helping me on my style search.  I’ve been able to try shapes, brands, and fabrics that I never would have otherwise (particularly as long as so many plus size vendors are online only).

This dress is a Jessica Howard – The waist is ruched and it is sleeveless, something I tend to avoid.  The reviews on the site pointed out that the high neck and longer skirt make it a touch matronly, and I suppose they are right about that, but that also makes it very appropriate for a work dress.  At the office, I threw a red sweater over the top to keep my arms warm and felt very pulled together all day long.

2014-07-22 18.16.13That having been said, looking at pictures I’m not sure I will wear it again or keep it; the print (which is actually polka dots) feels too busy to me.  Moreover the ruched waist makes shapewear a requirement, and it is FAR too hot for that in Arizona in August.  And thus the wonder of Gwynnie Bee – I send it back and they will send me something else!

You will see a lot more Gwynnie Bee dresses over the next couple of months.  I’ve become quite fond of dresses and have found some things that do and don’t work for me.

Things that don’t work for my shape:

  • Shift dresses – I’m a pear, and every shift dress I’ve tried on so far is too tight in the hips and loose in the chest – bad on both accounts.
  • Set-in waist bands or belted waists – This is less about the pear shape and more about that noticeable roll right between my boobs and my waist.  If I don’t wear heavy duty shapewear with these types of dresses, the line isn’t right. That is part of the problem with this dress.
  • Narrow straps or halters – One of the things with being a pear is that my hips are wider than my shoulders.  These types of necklines make that appear even more unbalanced.
  • Strapless – I’m a 42G – the amount of engineering required to make a strapless bra that will support me cannot comfortably be made into a strapless bra. Key here being COMFORTABLY – I know they make long-lines and such that can do it, but I don’t want to wear them.

So what does work?

  • Fit and flare – room for my hips, emphasize my smaller parts. These don’t all have things like contrasting or set-in waists, so finding the ones that don’t is my current mission.
  • Empire waists – my smallest measurement is my bra band, so raising the waist does good things on me.

I’m sure I’ll find more with time.  Stay Tuned…

(I’ll work on getting better at cell-phone selfies.  And getting a new camera…)

*Note about Jewelmint:  When you purchase a piece from them, you agree to essentially a monthly subscription – you either need to cancel or buy something each month, otherwise they charge your account and give you a credit.  This was quite a surprise the 1st time it happened, and not a happy one.  However they often have nice pieces at a decent price, so I’ve gotten good at remembering to skip.

Finding MY Style

I mentioned before that I have purchased things that didn’t work.  This blog revision 1 was actually really useful for me in terms of figuring out what some of those things are.

  • Small prints and florals
  • Chunky knits
  • Pale/pastel colors
  • Mustard yellow, no matter HOW cute it looks on others

At the same time, though, just eliminating things doesn’t leave you with a style. I needed a new way of thinking about developing my own style. In the process of looking around for ideas, I came across an interesting series of articles title The Wardrobe Architect.  So far it is really helping me narrow in on some things I hadn’t considered previously. In week 1 it asks you to reflect on how we are different and how that affects our choices.  Several of the questions brought out some interesting thoughts for me.

  1. History:  In reflecting on this, I realized that my parents style of dress (well, really my Dad’s; my Mom wore what my Dad wanted) has had a lingering impact on my tastes.  My father had a VERY conservative style and pushed my mom toward the same; very classically cut Pendleton Wool Suits, meticulously matched purse/shoes/belts, that kind of thing.  I still have to fight the urge to match my purse and shoes when I dress.  I also was used to seeing suits, so I get VERY fussy about matching colors; I steer clear of Navy because it is so hard to match unless you buy all the pieces together and only wear them with their matching pieces.
  2. Community: When I think about it, I have always been heavily influenced by the wardrobe choices of my friends.  When my best friend was leaning toward the hippy/new agey side, so did I.  Even now, my husband explicitly doesn’t like certain things, so I don’t wear them.  Most aren’t a big loss (I agree with him that Capri’s don’t really look good on anyone, although in AZ they would be nice), but I sometimes miss some of the more edgy styles.
  3. Location: Arizona is Hot.  Even when it’s cold for those of us who lives here, it’s still in the 50s.  Because of this my wardrobe has drifted to be made up of lots of tanks/tees and cardigans that I can wear over them when indoors.
  4. Body, Part 1: I’m fat.  I’ve been fat all my life, with a lowest adult size of a US16.  I have no image of myself as thin, but that doesn’t stop me from struggling with what I see in the mirror every time I look. Because of that I tend to wear my clothing looser than a lot of plus sized women.  That impacts the silhouettes that I wear.  Too tight and I feel like all people see is the lumps and bulges.
  5. Body, Part 2:  I’ve read any number of times that more structured clothing is good, but I hate it.  HATE it.  I suppose in some ways that I reflect the lack of structure in my figure into my clothing, but all I know is that I feel uncomfortable and hyper-aware in highly structured clothing – like they are trying to force me to be a shape I’m not.

These questions have helped me to understand a little bit about where some of my own preferences and, frankly, odd choices come from.  With any luck being aware of these things will help me decide whether they serve me well or are things to be fought against.

I’ll take a look at part 2 in my next post (I promise there will be pictures soon), but I’m glad I found this program.  I feel as though I noticed a few things today that were important, first about my history and second about my (still problematic after all these years) body image. Things to mull over …

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